An Incomplete and Growing List of Places I’ve Been Called a Faggot, By Whom, and When

My journal (Me, 1997).

Osage City High School Forensics Invitational (Unnamed Lincoln Douglas debater, 1998).

The top of the Quinton Heights hill in Topeka, Kansas (Brian Martin, 1999).

Shawnee Mission District Athletic Complex, Field 1 (Tyler from Wichita North High School, 2000).

The parking lot at Applebee’s (Former soccer teammate whose name I’ve forgotten, 2001).

Pump 3 at the Exxon Mobil in Kearney, Missouri (Three teenagers in a Toyota Corolla, 2002).

Paradise Cafe MC Freestyle Battle, Round 3 (Fur1ous, 2003).

The front desk at Ellsworth Hall (A woman dressed as Dorothy, 2004).

A fireworks tent in Natchez, Mississippi (A father with his kids, 2005).

Union Station in Chicago (A panhandler, 2006).

501 L Street NE, Washington, D.C. 20002 (A deacon from Enon Baptist Church, 2007).

At least seven D.C. gay bars (Various friends, 2008 – present).

City FC Summer Camp at Kelly Miller Rec Center (DuJuan’s mother, 2009).

An email to my boyfriend, (Me, 2010).

Regal Southwind 12 in Lawrence, Kansas during a showing of The Social Network, (A man I called out for texting, 2011).

A bench next to the fountain in the National Gallery Sculpture Garden (A security guard, 2012).

Maryland SoccerPlex, Field 9 (Eric from FC Volkswagen, 2013).

My phone (Looking? via Grindr, 2014).

The sidewalk outside of Kochix (An Uber driver, 2015).

Montana Highway 41 between Dillon and Twin Bridges (Two teenagers in a Ford F-150, 2016).

My mirror (Me, 2017).